Live together before the arrma
Live together before the arrmaBy: xingmin
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How many times have you heard that "Well, I think we should just live together first to see if we are compatible, and then we can get married." How many times have you saw the sight that the bride walked down the aisle who was already living together with her boyfriend. Nowadays, unmarried couples living together have increased dramatically over the past few decades. The rationale is simple: "By living together before marriage, we'll know how compatible we are. We'll find out the truth about a partner. We'll have greater opportunities to observe a partner's daily habits and routines and to see him/her in the cold light of morning. You wouldn't buy a pair of shoes without trying them on first, would you? You would be testing the car before you buy it, wouldn't you?" However, this is presumptuous, naive, and wishful thinking. There is often one person in the relationship who doesn't think in terms of a permanent, lifelong relationship. Thus, cohabitation often lacks a common purpose and has less benefit because it is not romantic. There are no lasting responsibilities. And it results in a rate of higher divorce. First of all, cohabitation is not romantic and may kill true love. Those who live together are likely to have a fleeting romance rather than a lasting relationship. A romance is not the same as having an ongoing relationship. Relationships take time and work to develop and maintain; romance is a positive feeling toward another person. Romance without a relationship is a brief encounter at best. Romance, in today's disposable society, is hastily devised and easily discarded at the first sign of conflict or disillusionment. There is no lasting commitment when times get tough. Good relationships are built upon knowing and enjoying each other on social, recreational, spiritual, intellectual, and communicative levels, not only the sexual level. However, premarital sex may fool someone into marrying a person who may not be right for him or her. Sex can emotionally blind. Real love can stand the test of time without the support of physical intimacy. "If you establish a mutually satisfying sexual relationship, you lose objectivity and actually cheat on the test of time. The only way to rationally decide whether your love is for keeps is to remove any preoccupation with sexual love. Otherwise you may marry a mirage, not a person you really know. In addition, love can never be a reason for premarital sex; rather, it is one of the greatest reasons to avoid premarital sex. True love would never seek the spiritual downfall of another. The love is patient and kind. It does not seek to please itself, nor does it delight in evil, but is always hopeful. Therefore, true love is patient in waiting for the proper time for sex. It is kind to future spouses by not pre-harming marital intimacy. In short, premarital sex can kill romantic. Women most often see living together as romantic,...
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